Depends on where you are… Mediation generally focuses parties on reaching a memorandum of agreement or understanding. The parties through the mediation process agree terms. If their lawyers are not present at the mediation they can take the memorandum to their respective lawyers and have this reduced to a legally binding agreement which they can sign if they choose.
During a recesion we have to think of new ways to cut corners. The more people fight the more legal fees go up. Most lawyers bill on a time basis so the longer a matter takes the more it costs you. In collaborative law as conflict is reduced the time spent decreases. Accordingly, the bill can go down. It is not an absoloute position, as circumstances vary, but on average it appears to proove cheaper.
I would strongly suggest you look at this video link on Alec Baldwin talking about the phenomenon of parental alienation. Parental alienation is a real threat to stability and happiness in the lives of children.
Good post from dead broke dad. A good site too.
http://deadbrokedad.ning.com/video/alec-baldwin-on-parental
Whatever about your personal differences, even if it is the other persons fault, put kids first. Do not use your children or your partners children as a weapon. They deserve better! Kids are like sponges and will absord all the hurt and grief. That is something you do not want on your conscience. Remember kids will in the long run love you more if you are the positive one…Collaborative law puts children first.
Going to court to fight a family law case is not a pretty experience for everyone. It can cost you money and leave people hurting. Worst of all children can suffer more than the parties themselves. People owe it to themselves to find a better way. Collaborative law and mediation offer people that better way to a non-contentious, better Divorce. Posturing and name-calling are sure fire ways to drive up legal costs.
In collaborative law and mediation alike it is important that the surroundings are kept positive.
Meetings should be conducted in bright, airy and comfortable surroundings. Dark rooms and small spaces can lead to people feeling proximate to the problems and pressured. It is prefereable to conduct mediation and collaborative law sessions in bright rooms with comfortable surroundings.
Perhaps put some fruit or drinks on the table for the parties before the meeting starts! Check with the clients to see if they are comfortable during the meeting. It all adds up to success.
